With the guy wanting to help you put oil in the car. Some men are being downright condescending sure, but women not fully understanding precisely what's going on in the male brain often misconstrue that kind of shit. Let me explain ...
See, all that crap about opening doors for you and laying our jackets over mud puddles and shit all stems from our natural instinct. We didn't have to learn it in some British school of manners or anything, the same way nobody needs to be told kittens are cute and should be hugged.
When we see a girl, (especially a beautiful girl like you), we can't help wanting to do things for her. Seeing such a stunning creature get her hands dirty just feels ... wrong to us. Like we have to do something to prevent it. Like it's our responsibility.
We can't really help it, and in it's purest form we don't mean anything by it.
"Society" has overlaid a bunch of formal bullshit onto that, so you get guys going through the motions in a selfish manipulative way, (and women on the other side of that interaction), or men even with the best intentions fucking it in some bullshit whiteknighty way because they saw some distorted version of that on TV they're trying to emulate.
But nobody has to explain to a man on a desert island how to do this shit. I've seen women just walking down the street I've never seen before and know I probably never will again that have had me instinctually looking around for a florist. I just have to tell her. I NEED to tell her how beautiful she is.
On the other hand, militant feminism also distorts what is actually going on, so people get all upset about it, instead of just enjoying what is one of the more beautiful things about being human being. They tell women that men are being sexist herpy derp, somehow disrespecting them as if they can't do things on their own, and worse make women feel like if they don't put oil in their own car, (whether they naturally want to or not), it makes them some kind of gender traitor or something. Plus you're especially wrong if a man offers to do it, he does, and you ENJOY IT sister!
Every individual person has different preferences, and nobody has to stick strictly to the script, but most women like men to take out the garbage, and don't get me started on the toilet seat thing.
If everyone just lets it go and acknowledges their own right, and the rights of others to act as comes naturally, instead of some one-size-fits-all bullshit, all this crap and the guilt over it goes away.
Oh and by the way, the guy probably was checking out your ass too. I don't care what Sir-Mix-A-Lot thinks, and I don't know when that kind of shit became the fashion, but as far as I'm concerned, you've got a beautiful ass. I LOVE your ass. It's perfect like everything else about you.